TNMU #172: Divorce Proofing Your Marriage with Eric Terry (Part 1)

Aug 20, 2021

Want to know the secret to divorce proofing your marriage? Want to help your son be better prepared for marriage down the road? Communication Coach Eric Terry joins the show today to specifically answer those questions and many more. With candor about his failed marriage, as well as what's different with his second one, Eric will help you become a better husband and a better father as he shares his personal journey and the wisdom he’s gained in the process.

 

Music Credit: "Funkorama" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

 

Expanded Notes:

• Dad modeled what manhood should look like, especially the work ethic; But he never showed how to resolve conflict
• Manhood required and began at the point of taking responsibility for your own actions
• Modeling conflict resolution with your wife is a gift to your children
• Just because you disagree doesn’t mean you have to argue
• Arguing cuts off our ability to listen for understanding
• Eliminating arguments is not the same as ignoring or avoiding conflict
• It’s not just what you say, it is how you say it
• Improving your relationship requires:
• • Checking yourself first (It’s not what happens, it’s how we respond to it)
  • Discover the real issue
  • Ask what you can do to fix it
• The issue is usually not the issue; it’s how you communicate about the issue
• A good marriage is really about two selfless communicators; if you can communicate well, marriage is easy
• Connect with Eric:
• • https://www.facebook.com/eaterrysr
  • Social: @EricATerrySr
• Eric’s book: RealTalk — The Making of a Man